It is hard for one’s true personality to translate when speaking another language, but luckily I am a fluent Spanish speaker and have learned enough Paisa slang to be my witty self.
I have found that Medellin women, as in most parts of the world, love compliments and like it when a guy can make them laugh.
I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian.
I have lived my entire life, barring the past 5 years of course, in Southern California.
The “gringo effect” is the reaction a foreign guy gets from girls here in Medellin.
It is an immediate sense of curiosity that some Colombian women have upon meeting a foreigner.
More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.
On the street, I am usually attracted to women who look as if they are on their way to an office job.
At first glance, Medellin women do not perceive me as a foreigner due to the way I look.
So I do not have that instant “gringo effect” on them.
Here in Medellin, you do NOT need to play that game.
Medellin nightclubs are for dancing, so it’s very easy to go up to a woman in a noisy disco, put out your hand, gesture for her to take it, and start dancing.