This emphasis on a muscular physique, runway-ready body, or flawless skin tone becomes far less important with each passing year, and traits like good humor, kindness, and compatibility become more important. Well-intended friends often say to single people, “It’s a shame that someone as smart and attractive as you is alone.” This implies that people need a special trait or qualification in order to attract a love interest—and that if we’re alone, we must be doing something wrong. The search for a partner isn’t the same as a search for the "perfect" car or a job, although dating apps may make it feel that way.This may be particularly reassuring for would-be daters whose best assets may not shine through in profile photo. We’re searching for a whole person, not a bundle of desirable traits. Marriage provides important legal and financial benefits.But as their lively conversation progressed, their disappointment and even hopelessness became palpable: “Why didn’t he text back? ” “I thought we were a couple, but then my best friend told me his profile said he was single and searching.” “I can’t believe he was married.” These laments are nothing new.Generations of women and men have suffered rejection, self-doubt, profound sadness, and a shattered sense of reality when a would-be suitor ended things abruptly or slipped silently away without a proper goodbye.
Although the proportion of persons ages 25 to 34 who are married has plummeted, that doesn’t mean that they are alone for life.
I quietly deplaned after four hours of silent eavesdropping, although I wished I could have been a source of hope to these young women. Don’t worry; odds are that you will find a life partner.
Marriage was once near-universal in the United States, with more than 90 percent of people marrying.
Demographers project that roughly three-quarters of Millennials and Generation Xers will ultimately marry by age 40, with higher rates for college grads yet lower rates for African Americans. What we look for in a partner changes as we get older, and that’s a good thing.
There are many reasons to look forward to middle age.