If we’re only in love with a list of qualities, well, then our love will drift to anyone who has those qualities.We haven’t yet reached the dignity of the person.” Online personal ads “commoditize” people, violating Pope John Paul II’s personalistic norm “that a human being may never be used as a means to an end,” said Dawn Eden, author of .Advantages and Disadvantages Such sites pair people who would otherwise not meet due to distance or other circumstances, said Catholic Match CEO Brian Barcaro.One match involved a man stationed on a submarine and a nurse on a nearly all-female staff in a neonatal unit.Ann Clegg recalled one man who sent her four to five messages each day with riddles and puzzles.When questioned, he admitted to “basically playing the odds by sending out messages to 75 or more women at a time,” she said.
“It’s unrealistic for a single Catholic to assume they can meet their future spouse within their local faith community,” said Ave Maria founder Anthony Buono.
Three other Catholic sites — Ave Maria Singles.com, Catholic and Catholic (Catholic Mingle is part of the Christian Mingle conglomerate (aka Spark Network) that operates other sites for Jewish and Mormon singles) — all have had under 500,000 visitors, according to data.
According to David Nevarez of Catholic Singles.com, the site has more than 200,000 active members.
“The other reality is that most Catholics in America do not believe 100% of the teachings of the Catholic Church.” Devout singles, he said, are in the minority in their community on issues like contraception, and thus they need a good way to find other like-minded faithful.
Ave Maria Singles and Catholic Match connect people with shared values and beliefs, their founders say.