Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan.
Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself.I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this, but that’s it for starters, I guess.All in all, it is easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.For some guys it really gets to their heads and they start bragging about it like crazy as part of the superstar syndrome.stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.When I ask them about how they got their cellphone or credit card they just answer they don’t know because their wife did it for them.Consequently they don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of it all. However, be warned: If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me!And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!