Thankfully for women who are the far side of 30, James says it is ‘absolute rubbish’ that they have no chance of finding love.
‘There are many men out there who are bored with having meaningless affairs and who want to settle down and have children too,’ he says.
While most of my MBA classmates developed expertise in one field or another that earned them millions, my expertise has been... • Be energetic and adventurous, in the bedroom and out.
• Be doggedly attentive and affectionate -- do things for women, from grocery shopping to rubbing their tired feet to being a sociable party companion and more. But even if not, she has something to say and longs to be heard. Next time, we'll talk about sex and money, and start talking about some advice for women over 50 in the dating world.
No, men will run a mile.’ She paused, then added: ‘Sorry, dear.’ I’ve never been someone who absolutely has to be in a relationship.
Whenever I was between boyfriends in the past, I would just enjoy life until another man came along — through work, mutual friends or our eyes meeting across a crowded room.
‘If a guy is going out with a woman in her late 30s, it is hardly going to be a surprise that she might also want children.’With that in mind, I decided to be honest about my desire for marriage and children — with surprising results.
Hopefully you will not miss this opportunity and free....‘So they want women in their late 20s or early 30s.Why would they like someone who, if she can still have children, would need to have them straight away?Guys in their age range want younger, less established women, or cougars who are self-made and don’t need the guy’s financial backing or his ability to procreate in order to share a life together.The only reason to get married is because you have decided that this person brings out the very best in you and you in them. Prepare yourself to be a good partner instead of focusing on how messed up single guys/women are over 35 years of age.But when I phoned a dating agency eight months ago, everything had taken on a new sense of urgency. ‘Haven’t you found yourself a husband yet, Bridgey? But don’t look desperate — men hate that.’ I went speed-dating, online-dating, wine-tasting dating, quiz-dating and dinner-dating.I realised that since turning 35 three years ago, I hadn’t met anyone I liked romantically, who was also single, straight and interested in me. ’ one married ex-boyfriend wrote on my Facebook page. I joined running clubs, did acting classes and dance classes, went on skiing holidays and singles holidays and badgered my friends to set me up with their friends.I track the conversation -- I'm not leaping from one topic to another. But even if you don't like listening, LISTEN anyway. • First, you're not as fascinating as you think you are. I don't care if you're Jon Hamm or Joe Scarborough or the head of an investment bank or ambassador to Ghana. The thought of not sharing your life with them is worse than the thought of losing everything else in your life. ‘Men want someone who is fertile but who doesn’t want children just yet,’ she continued.