While in the US and the UK “dating” is seen as a series of meetings that adheres to certain rules and protocols—waiting the proper amount of time before calling someone, arranging a date, wait appropriate number of dates before initiating appropriate amount of intimacy—before the time comes to have the boyfriend/girlfriend talk, the French tend to have a more laid back attitude.
They don’t always prearrange dates; expect to get a few last minute calls asking for your company.
Their dates aren’t always one-on-one; expect a good amount of those calls I mentioned (especially at first) to include the company of some friends. In the UK and US it’s not uncommon to date a couple of people at the same time and get to know them before you decide if you want to pursue a serious relationship with one of them and get rid of the rest. During this “get to know you” period, you may kiss one or more of your suitors just to test the waters or move things past the “just friends” label.
What this means for you: I mentioned before that French people don’t generally have “the talk” where the prospective couple decides if they want to be exclusive, so how do you know if you and your Parisian paramour are BF and GF? This doesn’t really happen in French dating culture.
While I am occasionally thrown off by their penchant for elaborately draped skinny scarves, I must admit that the French have an unbeatable natural elegance about them.
They know their qualité and their savoir-faire and their h man does not need to be taught how to dress or set the table or pick out a bottle of wine.
A cute floppy-haired French boy was looking at me with big blue eyes and I could not continue scarring him with my jaded judgments.
After all, I moved to this country – clearly, there must be something I enjoy.
If something makes you uncomfortable or you aren’t really sure where you stand, speak up.
After a year of living in France, my standards have plummeted to the point where I am shocked if a man offers to buy me a drink or gives up his seat in the metro for me. I have two Latin American girlfriends currently in relationships with French men.
Both claim that they have to regularly conduct little Hygiene 101 pep talks with their significant others, in which they explain that showing is a I stopped there.
I am very open minded and sociable, very principled and honest and adventurous.
Whether you’re currently seeing a Frenchman, or have one in mind (you sly girl), you may start finding you have more and more miscommunications as time goes on.