Let your friends and/or family know what you’re doing.
When my husband and I first met in person, I had someone I trusted (an older male) come with me and help me make sure this “virtual guy” was legit.
I also made sure he met some of my trusted friends early on so they could give me input.
That he was willing to be vetted helped me realize his intentions were sincere and his heart humble.
Boundless has even joined forces with online dating service Christian to help connect marriage-minded Christian singles and provide them with Bible-based relationship advice. What if a single man or woman signs up to Christian and meets someone? You can’t stay online forever, so how does a potential couple make the jump from the virtual world to the “real world”?
To help answer this question, I’m going to share some tips from one of my female colleagues.
We don't get to see how Abraham and Sarah got together but we do see a good bit of their marriage.
That’s why meeting in person sooner rather than later is wise.Scheduling the in-person meeting before you develop serious feelings can help you make wise decisions on whether this is a relationship you want to continue exploring or not. Meeting on a Christian dating site doesn’t automatically mean the person you’re communicating with is who they say they are.When you schedule that first in-person meeting, do it in a public area.It was strange to me that this guy knew how my day at work yesterday had gone, and yet I didn’t know if his eyes crinkled up when he smiled or if he gestured a lot when he talked.(In case you’re wondering, by the way, they do and he does.) He was patient for me to come out of my shell a bit, and thank God I was able to overcome any foolish notions I had that our meeting would be perfect out of the box.They point to their neighbor/sister/uncle/friend that met his/her spouse online and is enjoying a healthy, happy marriage. Sometimes things are less about what we do than about the heart we do it with.More often than not, the Bible offers general principles over specifics.For some in the Boundless community, this may lead them to trust God to bring a spouse through church, work, or a blind date set up through mutual friends.For others, it may involve signing up to an online dating site and seeing if God uses that.We can then take these big ideas and apply them to our everyday lives and the choices we make.But that process requires wisdom, discernment and guidance.