It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.If you’re suffering from no-life syndrome, step back and ask yourself why you aren’t having fun on your own. Play the sport you like or pursue one of your interests. Insecure people push for serious relationships for the security it brings, and people can sense that.
Most of us have experienced a serious relationship by accident, usually when we really like the person we’re dating and it just naturally develops into something more.
Each time, it has clouded his judgment, and he got stuck in rather dysfunctional relationships, which obviously didn’t work out.
He has been married once, and was in a long-term (five year) relationship with someone else.
That is something I want as well, but his remaining active on dating web sites even supposedly looking for “friends” is very disconcerting to me, and I told him as much.
Finally, the real question here: How long should I “patiently” wait for him to stop pulling back from me? I know everyone’s different, but I just need some guidance here, since I would like to see where things go without all the constraints!