When we are together, it just feels right, but we have yet to say “I love you” to each other.I’m not getting that he is ready to hear this yet, so despite my feelings, I avoid saying those three words to him.What compounds the problem in my mind is that he is still active on two dating websites, which he says is “very limited” in usage, that he is just looking for “friends” in which he has no emotional ties to, since he’s happy and contented with me (allegedly) at this point in our relationship.
He has been married once, and was in a long-term (five year) relationship with someone else.
If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.
He is using this as a basis for keeping me at arm’s length emotionally, and while I understand what he is attempting to do, it is becoming increasingly frustrating for me.
Our typical m.o., week after week, is that we have a wonderful, close, electric weekend together, and then nothing for most of the week.