As in all decisions, we should ask God to direct us clearly.
It can be difficult to meet single Christian men and women, especially if most of our friends have already married.
Back then, families helped young women and men meet and become engaged and often chose their children’s mates for them.
Today, while familial involvement is still the norm in many cultures, in many others, singles are more on their own to find a mate.
We may want to volunteer for a cause we care about or join other groups, being sure that we are doing it because we enjoy it, not just because we want to meet as many potential mates as possible.A Christian man should take the lead in relationships and making sure their relationship glorifies Christ in all things.A Christian woman should let the man take the initiative as the leader God made him to be.Is it possible we are being too picky, looking for the fairy-tale prince or princess, and by doing so, limiting the possibilities of what God may know is best for us and which we have not yet considered?Are we not being picky enough, forgetting that God calls all Christians to marry only other Christians (2 Corinthians ), or are we considering someone who is stuck in a serious, life-altering sin that could endanger the marriage?Some singles don’t bother to look for a spouse, believing God will bring the person to them, while others are forever on a search for one, fearing they may miss him or her.There should be a balance, as we remember that God is perfectly loving (Ephesians ; 1 John -18) and perfectly sovereign over every situation, desire, and need (Psalm 1; Romans -39).And, finally, as believers, we should be able to stand on our own two feet, relying on the Lord to fulfill us rather than feeling a need to be married in order to be whole.Once we have these common struggles sorted out, we can begin to pursue a woman, or be pursued by a man, with an eye towards marriage.Some people prefer to meet their spouse through friends, family, or in a chance meeting out in the world, and many do just that.But others believe they are limited in the people they meet because of their profession, the size of their city, or the nature of their activities.