These guys didn’t guard me from every mistake or failure — no one can — but they played a massive role in helping me mature as a man, a boyfriend, and now as a husband.
We won’t have trouble finding an answer (or a dozen answers) to any of our questions in relationships.Most people will float along with you because they’re excited for you, but you need a lot more than excitement right now — you have plenty of that yourself.You desperately need truth, wisdom, correction, and perspective.They stepped in when I was spending too much time with a girlfriend or started neglecting other important areas of my life.They raised a flag when a relationship seemed unhealthy.You will not truly love anyone else if you do not love God first and most.And no one will truly love you if they do not love God more than they love you.They knew where I had fallen before in sexual purity, and they weren’t afraid to ask questions to protect me.They have relentlessly pointed me to Jesus, even when they knew it might upset me — reminding me not to put my hope in any relationship, to pursue patience and purity, and to communicate and lead well.If our heart is not there — if our soul is not already safe through faith, if our mind is distracted and focused on other, lesser things, if our best strength is being spent on the things of this world — jobs, sports, shopping, entertainment, relationships, and on God — we simply will not date well. Listen to Jesus, and “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Seek him first (Matthew ), and dating will be added according to his perfect plan and timing. It’s not the first rule, but I have found that it is a “golden rule” that most often makes the difference between healthy and unhealthy Christian dating relationships.But after embracing and applying the first and greatest commandment, I have found that the . If you’re not a Christian — if you haven’t dealt with God before trying to date — you don’t have a chance of having a truly healthy Christian relationship with someone else.