The difficulties are more subtle — the challenge of having both parties’ intentions visible in advance. If we lived our lives abiding by the books of Martha, we would have a lot more tomato planters than anyone around us knew what to do with.
Filling out a profile correctly — what to say, what color to wear, how close to the camera to stand, what bizarre primordial cues to activate, etc. (Numerous studies have found that more choice may make you less happy. There are so many rabbits.) But especially when you compare it to the bar scene, it makes sense.
I think finding a soul mate for you might be a little bit difficult, but I think first dates are easily doable,” Yagan told her.“I’d like to have breakfast with somebody," Stewart admitted. Sleep with somebody.” While the confession clearly stunned TODAY’s Matt Lauer, Stewart’s nephew clarified it was nothing new.“The first time I met Martha, we spent most of the evening talking about her past suitors,” said Dan Slater, who recently married Stewart's niece. But she did fill out the section describing the type of person she’s looking for.
When confronted with millions of potential matches, it’s hard to convince yourself that this Perfectly All Right And Not At All Cabbagey-Looking Fellow with whom you are about to go on your third date is, as P. The bar scene, you now realize, conferred an unfair advantage on people naturally gifted in areas like Shouting Really Loudly Over Music, Wearing Fun Going-Out Tops and Not Falling Over On The Dance Floor.
Without these skills, you were left to fall back on your ability to convey your meaning through hand gestures and ill-timed winks, and the results were seldom stellar. Before the club was the club-and-drag-back-to-cave, but in between was a time when parents arranged careful and shrewd matches for their children.
In an interview taped earlier, Stewart told Lauer she loves dating but misses being in a relationship.“Well, I had a long-time boyfriend. The request left Lauer flummoxed.“I didn't know what your situation was,” he said.
That left Stewart exasperated.“For heaven's sake, I'll give you my phone number. Lauer spoke to Stewart at her home, where they discussed a wide range of topics including her newest book, “Living the Good Long Life.”Read an excerpt from Stewart's latest book Stewart said she isn’t bothered by the aging process and never thought about getting older until her mother passed away.“I didn’t think about it at all,” she said.