Andra Gusman, another student from Indonesia, found it much easier to talk to his family about girls.
"The way we were brought up, I think, dating is the norm," he said, "but not in the American sense.
Irshad, the young woman who grew up in Illinois says she's all for it.
"That's a really promising solution where young, Muslim Americans can register to use these apps and then they can connect with each other on their own. In other words, she says, they are the ones making decisions about their future spouses, instead of a match-making grandmother or auntie. Shaikh recalls a conversation with a Muslim man who had signed up on 24
"The best advice I can give them is to think first about their relationship with God, with Allah, and then if they develop that relationship strongly, I tell them, make prayer, make supplication, that God put something in their path to make it easy to understand what type of spouse would be right for them," she told me. Tuba Muhlise Okyay, who is from Turkey, said in her conservative family, marriages are arranged.
There is, she said, a courtship period where the couple are accompanied by a chaperone on, say, a dinner.
Arif Shaikh, who was also at the gathering, says growing up he knew some Muslim kids who did date. "Muslim kids who are in relationships are more secretive than Navy SEALS," he says.
"They can do anything and they're completely un-traceable." Shaikh says the way his parents got married doesn't work for him, or a lot of young Muslims who have grown up here.
Bio-data are what Irshad calls "dating resumes." Many young Muslims feel like they're in limbo: An arranged marriage is out of the question, but they don't want to disrespect their family and religion. " — was the topic of conversation at a recent gathering of Muslim college students in Boston.However, unlike India, there has never been the need for English as a lingua franca and thus Bangla is the state language of Bangladesh.During her visit to Bangladesh, UN Women Executive Director Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka met with government and civil society partners, as well as international development actors in Dhaka, and in Cox’s Bazar, where the Rohingya Refugee response is taking place...It is written in its own script, derived from that of Sanskrit.Many people in Bangladesh also speak English and Urdu. These include a strong Islamic influence seen in the greetings of "Salaam aleykum" (Peace be unto you) and "Khoda hafez" (God Bless you) and nouns from the Arab world such as "dokan" (shop), "tarikh"(date), "kolom"(pen) and "bonduk" (gun).There were about 30 students and a couple of women wore colorful headscarves.Muslim chaplain Celene Ibrahim Lizzio spoke about the "spiritual aspects of finding a spouse" — of asking God for guidance in finding love.He told Shaikh that he really liked the app and that he wants to get in touch with a couple of the women on it, but having lived in a conservative Muslim family, he said he didn't know how to write an email to a woman he didn't know."I said, listen, if you can't write an email to a girl, you can't get married to one," Shaikh says.He was born there too, but when he was 3, they all moved to the US.Growing up, when it came to dating, relationships and girls, Shaikh would experience one thing at home, another outside.