Courting was rooted in the era of arranged marriages, though the couple and their feelings often played an important role.
Still, families often met to discuss how this marriage would benefit not only the bride and groom, but the respective clans.
A nervous young man arrives at the door of a majestic brownstone townhouse.
He carries a small wood box containing a silver bracelet and ring, and a bouquet of resplendent burgundy tulips.
The point is, a marriage is a joining of two families as well as two young people.
In the other doorway stands the young woman’s mother and father.
Laughable perhaps, but several hundred years ago that was a common reality.
The dating process of today is different in structure and purpose than it was in the era when “courting” was the operative word.
Steady one-on-one dating at too young an age with no goal of marriage in sight can lead to problems and temptations.
(Of course, courting isn’t the starting place for those not of marriageable age.