As a defense, the female INTJ teen becomes an expert at hiding her intense and complex emotions, choosing instead to be viewed as “cold-hearted” and unempathetic.Many INTJ females will become competitive in their teenage years.It is especially hard for an INTJ girl to meet the expectations of respected familial authority figures when those authorities are expecting her to act like other children do.This situation can be exacerbated by the presence of a sibling, particularly a female sibling who meets the “normal” criteria of being feminine and empathetic.INTJ girls are often disinterested in appearing like other girls and do not usually feel obligated to adhere to gender-specific standards.That complicates interactions between the INTJ teen and her non-INTJ counterparts.But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the 28-year-old women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows what Snapchat is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. When I was in my late 30’s I became involved with someone 15 yrs. The age difference did not seem especially significant during the 5 yrs we were together.
This lack of acceptance from other females will likely encourage the INTJ girl to primarily, or even exclusively, befriend boys throughout her childhood.
But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.
If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.
Only ~0.8% of the human population are INTJ females, so they are also the rarest personality type.
You’re unlikely to find an INTJ female, especially if they don’t want to be found, due to the INTJ preference for staying in quiet places where they can enjoy privacy and time alone. The female INTJ’s childhood might appear harsh and difficult.