Research shows that first impressions are formed within 17 seconds of meeting someone new.
That’s just enough time to see if there’s chemistry, but not so much time that you feel trapped if there isn’t.
Why you do it: If you idealize romantic partners when you first meet them, it’s often a sign that you have been burned or neglected emotionally in the past, and that you’re holding out hopes that someone can magically fill the voids.
Remember, the best way to overcome lonely feelings is to cautiously approach new individuals in the following way: You wait for the right one so that you don’t have to keep starting and then stopping, and starting yet again with someone new. You want to meet your new date’s friends or family members as soon as possible.
Why you do it: Wanting to meet friends and family very early on is a sign that you want to blend your life quickly with your new date’s life.
This helps keep the community safe and helps you meet higher quality people.
Again, it’s normal to think or daydream about someone you like.
However, it’s not normal to constantly think about him or her.
17 seconds is all you need to get a sense of someone's personality.
Do you get your hopes up only to have them dashed – no, obliterated – soon after? Moving too quickly early in dating is one of the most widespread dating problems for men and women alike.